Does a flower struggle?

During his dharma talk today, my teacher reiterated that when one gives herself to a flower, the flower also gives itself, they become one and then there is no separation, no self, no flower. I began to think about this and jokingly thought it wasn't very fair that I have to struggle so much to give myself to the flower so I can become one with the flower but then the flower gets to become one with me after no work at all. I asked my teacher, "Does the flower struggle with me as I struggle?" Another wise student said that I am the one who sees the flower separate from myself, so I am the one who has to struggle. Aahh. I see.